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Maybe Minnesota nice has been rubbing off on me, I don't know.

Over the past few months there have been some posts on my friends pages where everybody else agrees with them and I sit there thinking "get OVER yourselves." But I don't do anything about it. There once was a time where I would have no issue saying that to a person and would be ready to debate about it. I felt confident in my opinions. I was ready to voice my thoughts. Now I don't.

Maybe I'm just growing up or some shit like that. Maybe I'm "maturing" and I don't feel the need to correct people. But holy god, there have been some pretty self rightious posts and I've just been "you know what, no - I just don't care." But I do - it eats away at me. Like, how can I let these people go on thinking like that. Do they HEAR what they are saying? Actually hear it? And then everybody else is like "OMG - you said what I've been thinking for like, EONS" or "You're so right, my god you're so right." Everybody is giving these great, glowing remarks and I sit there, fingers itching to be all "dude, you're wrong. Get off your high fucking horse." But I don't.

I don't know if it's because I'm too polite to make a comment like that on someone's personal space (but I wouldn't have a problem saying it to them in person) or if I just don't want the backlash. Either way what's eating at me is the fact that I care that I don't care. I'm one big walking hypocrite or somthing like that.

Oh, and this post isn't meant to be cryptic or shit like that. I don't want anybody getting mad at me or start being all "what, bitch has a problem with my views? Why don't bitch come out and SAY those problems, huh? huh?" And that's just the whole thing - I don't want to discuss this shit on your guys journals. If you said it to me in person, that'd be different. And don't get me wrong, I love reading my friends list - it keeps me occupied during the slow time at work and I know that if I had a major issue with any of this crap I could just defriend people (omg - it's such social no-no to do that! But I'm sure most of you have your own filtered friends list - it's a way for you to read those who you want but not others and it solves the unsighty business of deleteing someone.).

I'm just wondering where the fuck my spine went.
 
 
 
 
 
 
But what if they agree with you because they actually agree with you, not just going with the flow? Not everybody who is going to disagree with you is disagreeing with you because it's the hip thing to do. Some people are gonna disagree with you because you're just plain wrong in their minds and odds are they probably have some good evidence behind them. In a perfect world, this would be the case at least 90% of the time. However, because it's the 'net and stupid people run rampent, they aren't going to be able to defend themselves.

Now this leads to where personal attacks come in. FOr example: If you were to say that I was wrong, and everybody who thought I was right was a stupid but fucking moron who didn't deserve to live, let a lone breathe, well, that I would consider a personal attack. You and Tiff had a good row of this on the feminist post a few months ago. I was actually really hesitanat about letting them go - it was getting pretty nasty there. I don't like nasty in my LJ, but I will support debate.

I've found that the less proof someone has, the more likely they are to resort to name calling. This turns into personal attacks. But just posting a disenting view point and being really rude about it isn't supporting debate, it's just being dumb (and I'm not saying that you have done this today, just to be clear.)
I have done it in the past tho. . .so it's ok. And Tiff just brought the personal attacks. . . she insulted my mother, if memory serves me right, so I say she deserved it.

Sometimes, I think people want to just be asses about it for the sake of being asses.

Oh well. . .I will conclude by saying one thing.

Sept 25th I will be in your neck of the woods. We shall have drinks.